Have I told you how I almost got a boob job?
A couple years ago I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I looked at a billion boobs online. So many before and after pics and vlogs and blogs and articles about the process and healing. All of it.
I was definitely stuffing my bra when I was in 4th grade. Behind closed doors.
During the boob exploration I bought some fake silicon boob inserts. Warning, they may fall out of the top of your shirt, flop on the ground in the middle of target and you will laugh wishing someone else could have witnessed it, but also YOUR FAKE BOOB JUST FELL OUT!! And you’ll be glad no one saw it. Or did they?
Anyway, boobs are hot. I still think so. That’s why I wanted them. I got to the point where I needed my headspace back. I needed to either stop thinking about it or do it.
There is a surgery center that does consultations nearby. They take pictures of your chest and then digitally show you what you would look like with different sizes and styles of inserts. It was the next step forward to learn more but not commit to anything.
I made the appointment, I saw the pictures and ironically...I walked away feeling really content about my body. I like what I have.
To those who have them or want them, I GET IT! There are so many reasons for a woman to get them.
If you feel empowered and sexy for YOU with them, then rock your badass self. If you feel empowered and sexy for YOU without them, rock that too!
Why am I telling you this?? Because it’s real.
Because we evolve.
Because change is good.
Because it’s a beautiful process that’s messy and complicated and also simple.
Because I am more than just my picture.
Because loving and appreciating my body is a process just like yours.
Because we all have a story, even if we don’t share it.
Because bigger boobs or smaller boobs don’t determine how I own and show up in my life.
I get to decide that.
I get to choose.
My body is the tool I am privileged to use to experience a conscious life.
I’m a lucky lady.
Plus boobs are super annoying to deal with if you’re a super active person.
I’m part of the small boobs society crew too and loving it, much easier! 😂 Thank you for sharing this though, I’ve definitely been in this situation when I was younger! 😘😘 Beauty just the way you are! Xxx
I just had my implants taken out. Best decision I ever made. Congrats on not doing it to being with. Love this post. 😊
You’re amazing and beautiful.
As a cisgendered male, I feel like commenting on this thread is completely inappropriate, but I can’t help myself. I feel like breast augmentation trades SUBJECTIVE PLEASURE for OBJECTIVE PLEASURE… Trading (in many cases) erogenous sensitivity, or breast feeding ability for the approval of what has mostly been a mental creation of our sick and twisted patriarchy. Sure, there are those (like my sweet mother) who’ve had to endure double mastectomies and who’ve literally been reduced in that department with which a breast augmentation (to me) seems purely restorative and wholly reasonable to one’s self-esteem. But to feel inadequate enough to allow men (and in many cases other women) to shame you into a procedure that you have to then shoulder the physical burden of and the financial costs of; is completely fucked up. Don’t get me started on birth control… we’ve had the means for decades to give men steroids (testosterone) that when perceived by the male endocrine system, stops the production of testosterone and therefore sperm; that is completely reversible, has ZERO known side effects, and stops unwanted pregnancies 99.9999% of the time; yet we burden WOMEN with the responsibility, and the financial and physical costs of. But breast augmentation also shows the cracks within people… Their need to reach outside of themselves for validation. It seems to me to be nothing much more than a means of seeking external validation, or, the objectification of subjective pleasure. I’ve experienced both natural and fake breast within my relationships, and I vastly prefer the real ones, every time…. regardless of size and shape. -Yes, I fully acknowledge the fact that I’m a cisgendered man commenting on a woman’s appearance and the many ramifications (as if my opinion matters at all); is WAY out of line. But seriously, YOU ARE ENOUGH! Your body gives life, FEEDS life, and has been forged to do so over hundreds of thousands of years of being ENOUGH.
I have zero boobs and ironically I have never wanted fake ones. I don’t know why. I’m 100% happy with my teeny boobies. ❤️❤️❤️
Good for you! I did the same thing. But little boobs are totally in right now. So I probably won’t reconsider until the itty bittys go out of style. 😂🙌🏻
@carrot_bowl_bonnie Thank you for this. My chest is like yours and I've always been really self-conscious about it. Boobs ARE hot! I admit, I've also researched surgery to a very limited extent. My husband loves my body and truthfully, so do I, most days. And small has it's advantages, too. I've decided to embrace the small. Embrace my presidency of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee.😊
Honestly Bonnie, your small chest is the thing I find most beautiful about you (ask Alisha). Not only because the proportions of it are exquisite (flat chest + long, lean, strong arms = super aerodynamic), but because it's so unusual. We live in a culture where everyone seems to be losing all perspective on what is normal and healthy and beautiful, and instead filling their bodies with silicone and sucking this and lifting that and filling this and eyelashing and eyebrowing that. To me it just looks like massive self-loathing and body mutilation. When I see a body like yours, I see power. It inspires trust. @jadegrimmius
Yes! This whole post is a big one for me. I had bigger boobs when my hubby and I got married. Over the years, they have shrunk to almost nothing. Some days, I long for them to be back. To have the curves that are considered sensual. To not feel like I look like a 12 year old boy. I just cannot do it. I don’t know why. I still think they make clothing fit better and for me, they are sexy. Until then, I will either pad or stay natural like usual lol!
Everyone wants what they can’t have ! 🙆🏽♀️ as a person who has pretty big boobs I WISH I had small boobs. For me they just get in the way of everything and I can’t wear any cute tops !! 😩
Finding self acceptance and peace — freaking badass to say the least!! Shine Bonnie 🌸🌸🌸
I live how boobies look and i wish mine would magically grow back to what they used to look like haha but Ive learned to love them anyway. Love reading your story ❤️❤️
First of all, you have an incredible body. Second, it was nice to read that. I just had a baby and do not recognize my body anymore, specially my breasts. Thing is: it is difficult to decide whether to do or not to do the surgery for many reasons.